From Ex to Dates?

I never believe in getting back together with any of my ex. To me, that was my past and I’m not planning on going backward. Why do I have to see my past when I have all the future ahead of me? Yes, I still maintain friend with my ex, and is that a bad thing? I don’t think so! Cause I’m having a good time with them, why not be friend? It’s a good thing, for me or for mankind at least. But just the thought of getting back together after those break ups, weird me out (And please don't get me wrong again with my statement above, see only the positive thing).

But after I experienced all of my friends’ love life (a lot of them getting back together with their ex), One says ‘you will know, you will feel it inside you, when u find your true love!’, ‘in one person life, they find so many true love, until the time they meet ‘the One’’. Ok, so I find it, the level in relationship…

First comes friend for benefits; one you definitely can count on them fulfilling your loneliness needs, but you can’t really count on their faithfulness, anyway you both have no commitment.

Second comes puppy love; the one who’s keeping you company through you life, only with commitment. He/she is your partner and of course u like them so much, you missed them so much, but you figure if you love them or not… (one friend told me, love is a sacred feeling, deep feeling, where you make yourself able to sacrifice your everything when it comes to relationship)

Third comes the true love; one level of course above puppy love, you knew you love him/her, although sometimes you have these doubts if they love you or not. on this part, it's all about jealousy!

And fourth comes the one; instantly you knew both of you love each other (still need a phase though). You knew each other, you trust each other, and you understand each other. There’s no jealousy (a little maybe), cause each both of you knew, is cheating with another person worth the love life you built so hard and takes a lot of understanding and trust/prove? Then you will have a second thought for cheating.

It got me thinking; on why I don't want to get back together with my ex-es, maybe I just haven’t found my ‘true love’! All these times, I’ve only been playing puppy love. Yes, I said the ‘love’ word, but if it was really come from my heart, I doubt it. I guess my love life before was just not long enough to reach true love.

So, to reach ‘true love’ or even ‘the one’, does it really takes a long period of time? Well, I say it really depend on how two person connected to each other!

and for my date, you don't have to worry about my ex, they're basically my good friends now! the one you should watch out is the hot ones. hahaha... ;-)

Lots of love!